It is a strange world and stranger is the today’s Love;
We want someone independent,
But we cringe when they refuse to be vulnerable.
We want someone sensitive and loving,
But we label them needy when they tell us what we mean to them.
We want someone Loyal,
But we get easily bored by the stability.
We want someone unique,
But we get intimidated by the difference.
We want someone daring and wild to showoff in our posts,
But we lack guts to say what we mean and prefer to ghost.
We want to be understood ,
but we do not intend to get out of our narrow bubble.
We want real connection,
But we lack the patience to have real communication.
We want to be treated right,
But we fail to give what we desire.
We definitely want to be loved,
But we conveniently ignore the key to receive love.
We accept it or not, we strongly desire nurturing and healthy relations. Maybe we need to look inside rather than finding reasons outside.
In the light of whatever is going on right now in the world, I want to reflect on the dialogue that we all must have been part of or at least witnessed ( in real or/and virtual world).
Person A: Says something disrespectful and inappropriate.
Person B: Shows their disappointment and disapproval.
Person A: “I was just joking, don’t be too sensitive. Haha…”
Person B(Reply 1 of N): Silent. [Question their own reaction and convince themselves that they are overreacting]
Person B(Reply 2 of N): Speaks up because it matters. [ Are firm about their position ]
A( About B’s reply 1): Yes! I am right. [Deep inside gets the message that I can go on being inappropriate and just defend myself by calling it “light humor”]
A(About B’s reply 2): Gets insecure when their shit is being called out and label the person B as aggressive and too emotional rather than doing some self analysis.
I do not feel that I need to explain the dialogue but it is definitely indicating to one fact:
“This is the era of wrongly supposed Synonyms.”
- Inappropriate = Humor
- Assertive = Aggressive
- Self respect = Arrogant / stubborn
- Sensible = Too emotional
- Moral = politically correct
- Polite = Available
- Gender free love = Experimenting/ Lifestyle
- Knowing what you want = High Maintenance
- Clothes length = Scale [ Prude <-> Slut]
- Philosophical = Over-analyzing / Waste of time
The list goes on…
I do not have a concluding message . I guess from this, People will take whatever they are capable of .